My kids and I were sitting on the couch the other evening, all cuddled together with a book. We had just finished reading our current chapter when I asked them what their favorite part of the day had been. Both kids gave the same answer, “Right now, mom.” It was those quiet moments that we were sharing and enjoying together. Quietly connecting through our love of reading.
Part of me knew the answer when I asked it. My kids love it when we read aloud before bedtime, which makes my heart glad since my kids are 10 and 14. In those quiet moments we connect and really pay attention to one another. They listen to me read and I listen to their questions and comments. We pay attention to each other. We have the time and quiet to really listen and hear what the other person is saying.
There are other ways that my kids and I enjoy connecting. We might:
- Looking at photos and scrapbooks of them and others in our extended family
- Listening to music, usually selected from our music appreciation classes
- Having a mini tea party
- Having a picnic lunch
- Visiting our local historical museum
- Taking a nature walk in the nearby woods
During these quiet moments we talk about the actual activity we are doing but we also discuss other things. This is usually when the kids bring up the things that they have been thinking or wondering about. For example, in our reading mentioned earlier we read about a parrot. My 10 year old son wondered out loud whether God knew that parrots could talk when they were created. What an opportunity to discuss my beliefs with the kids and for them to express their thoughts on creation.
Are there moments that you quietly connect with your kids? What are some of your favorite ways to connect with them? I would love to hear about your experiences in the comments below.